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Written by Matt Frazer


Even for those blessed with the gift of gab, words are often difficult to come by when confronted with the death of a friend or loved one. To help you write a meaningful condolence card, including options for funeral stationery, please check out some of our tried and true methods.


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Expressing Sympathy

Death is the great — and final — equalizer. Along with being born, it is truly the only major life event that all living things have in common. But unlike birth, which is accompanied by joy and celebration, death remains an elusive mystery that is feared and dreaded by most. When we hear of a death, even the most composed person shudders at the thought of expressing condolence for the family. What on earth could one possibly say to help ease the burden of grief?


The truth is that we all stumble through this dark time and although we may not have the perfect words, the family of the deceased will be grateful for an expression of sympathy. Not addressing the death in any way, whether through conversation or card, is the poorest choice to make and one the bereaved will remember.


Condolence Cards

Funeral stationery will help you convey your thoughts. Sympathy cards are readily available, with pre-printed expressions of compassion included. You can purchase one and simply sign your name if you are truly tongue-tied. To add a personal note makes a greater impact and if you don’t know what to say, simply write that. Including memories of the departed, acknowledging the close relationships they had with those left behind, and adding a bible verse are thoughtful additions that will help the bereaved on their journey to healing.


There also are a few things that you should try to avoid when confronted with this task. To say that the deceased “is in a better place” may come off as insincere or even be hurtful to the bereaved, as does “everything happens for a reason.” Those words offer no comfort to loved ones left behind. Likewise, “I’m sorry for your loss,” while a commonly used phrase after death, may trivialize the magnitude of the event; one loses material possessions — death leaves a void that can never be filled. It’s best to let the bereaved know that you are there for them, and the ways in which you will miss this person as well.


Death is an overwhelming time for those close to the deceased, requiring attention to funeral details while dealing with intense grief. Condolences offered by friends and family offer immeasurable comfort in knowing their loved one is remembered.